When Beauty isn't so Important

I have never felt so helpless in my life than watching those I love the most grieve.

My husband's Grandmother passed away in August and left my husband absolutely devastated.   It brought up many deeply buried emotions for him as it was his mother's mother and he lost his mother when he was 17.  At the funeral his mother was mentioned many times and each time I could see my husband crumble and slump to the point that I was having to hold him up, the pain etched a little deeper on his face.

The past two weeks my twin sons have been dealing with Suicide.   At 13 years old this is not an easy topic for me as their mother to discuss but Suicide is something that all parents SHOULD discuss with their children.  One of my boys best friends tried to take his own life due to bullying and ended up in hospital, what makes this even more difficult is that their friends father took his own life 7 years ago.

  

This has had quite an effect on my boys and brought up emotions in them that they have found very difficult to cope with.  Trying to understand why their friend would want to die has been a very difficult subject to discuss with them, it has left them on an emotional rollercoaster alternating between sadness and anger.  We have made many trips to the hospital to visit and I think it has been very healing for them all.  

I lost three male friends to suicide whilst I was growing up and being the mother of four children it is a fear that flickers in the back of my mind at times.  Suicide is a common cause of death in teenagers, especially in men between the ages of 15 and 24.  If you know anyone who you think might be at risk there are professionals you can turn to for help.

Lifeline 13 11 14

Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800

SuicideLine 1300 651 251

You don't have to be a trained professional to be able to help, just being a good listener and a friend by offering emotional and practical support can make all the difference.

Yesterday I received the news that my ex-husband and father of two of my children, had gone to sleep and didn't wake up the next morning.  He was only 51 years young.  Watching my children's grief would have to be the most difficult thing I have ever witnessed and if I could take away their pain, I would do it in a heartbeat.  All I can do is hold them and allow their raw emotions to wash over me and hope that my love is enough to see them through.

I ask all my readers to please pray for my family and send us positive energy, we could really use it right now.

I am sending out LOVE & STRENGTH to all my readers and if there is anything happening in your life and you need to talk please reach out to a friend.

EVERYONE IS WANTED BY SOMEONE

Jac x0x