Tuesday 3 September 2013

When Beauty isn't so Important

I have never felt so helpless in my life than watching those I love the most grieve.

My husband's Grandmother passed away in August and left my husband absolutely devastated.   It brought up many deeply buried emotions for him as it was his mother's mother and he lost his mother when he was 17.  At the funeral his mother was mentioned many times and each time I could see my husband crumble and slump to the point that I was having to hold him up, the pain etched a little deeper on his face.

The past two weeks my twin sons have been dealing with Suicide.   At 13 years old this is not an easy topic for me as their mother to discuss but Suicide is something that all parents SHOULD discuss with their children.  One of my boys best friends tried to take his own life due to bullying and ended up in hospital, what makes this even more difficult is that their friends father took his own life 7 years ago.
  
This has had quite an effect on my boys and brought up emotions in them that they have found very difficult to cope with.  Trying to understand why their friend would want to die has been a very difficult subject to discuss with them, it has left them on an emotional rollercoaster alternating between sadness and anger.  We have made many trips to the hospital to visit and I think it has been very healing for them all.  

I lost three male friends to suicide whilst I was growing up and being the mother of four children it is a fear that flickers in the back of my mind at times.  Suicide is a common cause of death in teenagers, especially in men between the ages of 15 and 24.  If you know anyone who you think might be at risk there are professionals you can turn to for help.

Lifeline 13 11 14
Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800
SuicideLine 1300 651 251

You don't have to be a trained professional to be able to help, just being a good listener and a friend by offering emotional and practical support can make all the difference.

Yesterday I received the news that my ex-husband and father of two of my children, had gone to sleep and didn't wake up the next morning.  He was only 51 years young.  Watching my children's grief would have to be the most difficult thing I have ever witnessed and if I could take away their pain, I would do it in a heartbeat.  All I can do is hold them and allow their raw emotions to wash over me and hope that my love is enough to see them through.

I ask all my readers to please pray for my family and send us positive energy, we could really use it right now.

I am sending out LOVE & STRENGTH to all my readers and if there is anything happening in your life and you need to talk please reach out to a friend.

EVERYONE IS WANTED BY SOMEONE

Jac x0x

24 comments:

  1. My condolences to you and your family.
    It's really sad to hear these issues :(
    Sorry, I don't know how to comment on these issues, I hope you understand. Hope everything turns out better for you and your family. Definitely, keeping you in my prayers.

    Stay strong xx

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  2. My deepest condolences to you and your family. You sound like a strong, supportive person and I hope you all find peace in such a tragic situation x

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  3. Condolences to your family through this difficult time. I will keep you & your family in my prayers...

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  4. oh Jac, my thoughts are certainly with your family.. suicide is indeed a very real issue even for the younger kids, I hope there's resources out there to aide in their understanding and that their friend recovers in every way possible. Heartfelt condolences for your recent losses.. life truly is precious and far more important than Beauty.. take care mate xx

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  5. Thank you Loz, I really appreciate your words, it certainly puts things into perspective.


    Jac x0x

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  6. Thank you for your kindness and prayers x0x

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  7. My ex is now with our daughter and his mother that brings me peace. I have to be strong for my boys now. Thank you for your kind words x0x

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  8. Thank you Melissa I appreciate your words they mean more than you know


    x0x

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  9. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I'm so sorry to read this news and my thoughts and prayers are with you. I have also lost someone to suicide, it is a terrible terrible thing to go through and deal with. Stay strong xx

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  10. Thank you Sarah I really appreciate your words xx

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  11. I am so sorry Jac. I almost cried reading this. Like you said, suicide should definitely be a topic that needs to be thoroughly discussed with young teens, I wish this was raised while I was in High School. It's a difficult topic, but I am so glad you are discussing with your children. You are a strong woman with a lot of will, my thoughts are with you. xx

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  12. My Uncle committed suicide when he was 18 and it was never spoken about, times have changed for the better I think.

    Thank you Lily for your kind words xx

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  13. Oh my God Jac, you've been through a horrifying time over the last few weeks. You are an incredibly strong and inspiring lady - I've said it before and I'm saying it again. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your ex - and will definitely keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I hope and pray that things look up for you soon.

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  14. I am so sorry for what your family is going through, sending lots of love and positive thoughts all the way from Pakistan xxx. May God help you to get out of this situation

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  15. I'm very sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family. I'm sure that love and positive attitude will bring you a bright future. Stay strong.

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  16. Thank you Sanja, I am feeling a little better today, it is always hardest for those of us left behind x0x

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  17. Thank you Faiza for your kind words, I really appreciate hearing from you x0x

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  18. Thank you Renu, God doesn't give us more than what we can handle, watching the children suffer is a bit tough.


    Big hugs


    Jac x0x

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  19. This is so important. Thank you for posting about it. I lost my mom when I was 19 so I know how your husband feels. I send you both my thoughts.
    xo
    styleontheside.com

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  20. Thanks Caroline, I thought it was important to share too, there are a lot of people out there that need friendly help and just to know that they are not alone.


    Jac x0x

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  21. Many thanks for posting this, and helping to bring this painful subject to people's attention.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this terrible time of bereavement :(

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  22. Thank you Katy I appreciate it :o)

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  23. Aw Jac what a terrible time for you and your family. I can only imagine - it certainly puts things into perspective doesn't it. Sending love and strength your way xx

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  24. Thanks Kayte, there is certainly a cloud hanging over our house at the moment, only time will heal.


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